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In my book My Heart Belongs in The Shenandoah Valley: Lily’s Dilemma, I address atychiphobia or the fear of failure. One of my two main characters, Mac Albright, is terrified to fail. For him, it’s not an option. He intends to prove that he’s not the “ne’er-do-well” that Alexandria, Virginia’s elite have come to believe. Mac’s entire motivation hinges on his success in the Shenandoah Valley and that success is bolted with spite. When his future goes up in flames, Mac can barely cope.
In researching my novel, I learned fear can be a result of many things.
You’re surrounded by critical or unsupportive people
You experienced a traumatic event and now associate it with some forms of success
You’re stuck in the mire of self-sabotage which is keeping you from succeeding. To keep yourself there, you:
When plagued by the fear of failure we must force ourselves to define its meaning in our lives. What does failure look like? Is it the manuscript that’s never published? The book that gets published but then bombs? Years without a promotion at your job and going years without recognition? The second thing we must do is figure out what we would do should the worst occur. It’s a frightening road, but once travelled the fear amazingly doesn’t seem so scary anymore.
Fear comes in many shapes and sizes. A new mom might be frightened that she won’t be the parent she longs to become. The college grad might harbor a fear of not attaining the high-paying position he’s hoped for as he struggled his way through school. But psychologists agree: Facing the specific fear by imagining the worst and then creating a “Plan B” for your life is key to overcoming atychiphobia.
The truth is we will all experience failure in our lives. However, when you get down to it, failure is merely a matter of perspective. For the Christian, the failures we experience are meant to shine the light of God’s grace on our lives and to teach us how to become more like Jesus Christ. Accepting His will is actually the key to success.
Therefore, beloved, fear no more!
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